The Little Things in Marriage Have the Most Impact…

We all remember the early days of our relationships, where we were head over heels, passionately pursuing our partners. We pulled out all the stops and wanted nothing more than to spend every possible moment with them. We stayed up way past our usual bedtime or spent more money than we typically would, all for just a few extra minutes together.

Then came the part of the relationship where we started focusing on the next steps. We realized this person was the one we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with. We dreamed together about the future—where we would live, what we would do for our careers, and how many kids we might have. It all felt so hopeful and optimistic!

Next came the wedding day, the honeymoon, and then, just a few short weeks later, the routine of life began—now as a married couple. Fast forward a few months or years, and we find ourselves excited again: we’re pregnant! The anticipation and optimism return in full force.

But then, the baby arrives, and sleep leaves us. We become a bit short with each other. The fiery passion starts to fizzle as demands from work pile up, aging parents need care, or debt begins to loom. The pressures of daily life creep in. The habits we had at the beginning of our relationship—where we spent so much time and energy on each other—seem like a distant memory. The relationship we’re in now feels so different from the one we had back then.

We may even find ourselves wondering, Where did the spark go?

Does this sound familiar?

All relationships go through seasons. It’s easy to get caught up in the cycles and monotony of life and forget what kept our relationships passionate and alive in the first place: the little things. It was the texts throughout the day, dreaming of the future together, watching movies or TV shows side by side, going out for coffee or dinner dates, taking long drives, or walking hand in hand through the park. Those small, seemingly insignificant moments were the fuel that kept the fire burning.

When we understand the impact of these small gestures and make a conscious effort to keep them alive, we can see the big difference they make. Like stoking a fire, adding small logs—no matter how tiny—helps sustain it. Those little actions are the fuel that keeps the flame alive.

Take a moment to reflect on your relationship. Has it felt like the spark and passion have started to fade? Could it be because the small, practical things you used to do together are no longer happening? If so, start small. Reintroduce those activities you once loved doing together!

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