Self Esteem and Identity

Who am I, really?

Am I enough?

How do I move forward when I don’t like who I see in the mirror?

These are the kinds of questions many people wrestle with — especially during seasons of stress, transition, or after difficult life experiences.

When your sense of self takes a hit, it can affect every part of your life: relationships, work, faith, motivation, and mental health. You might be stuck in patterns of self-criticism, shame, comparison, or perfectionism — constantly questioning your worth and purpose.

You don’t have to stay trapped in that cycle. Counselling can help you rebuild self-esteem, reconnect with your true identity, and move forward with greater confidence and clarity.

Signs You May Be Struggling with Self-Esteem or Identity

You may be experiencing:

  • Persistent self-doubt or feelings of inadequacy

  • Harsh inner criticism or perfectionism

  • Difficulty accepting compliments or positive feedback

  • Comparing yourself negatively to others

  • Avoiding challenges or opportunities out of fear of failure

  • Struggling with identity questions — “Who am I now?”

  • Feelings of shame tied to past experiences or relationships

  • A disconnect between how you see yourself and how you want to live

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone — and there is a path forward.

How Counselling Can Help

At BSB Counselling, I provide a safe, supportive space where you can explore the roots of low self-esteem, challenge unhelpful beliefs, and start building a stronger, healthier sense of self.

Individual Therapy

In one-on-one sessions, we’ll work to identify the factors that have shaped your self-view — including past relationships, life experiences, or cultural messages. Together, we’ll develop tools and strategies to help you build self-compassion, resilience, and confidence in who you are.

Men’s Issues

Many of the men I work with share that they’ve struggled quietly with self-esteem for years — often under pressure to “have it all together” and show no weakness. If this sounds like you, counselling offers a space where you can be real, explore who you truly are, and develop practical skills to show up in life with greater authenticity and strength.

Faith-Based Counselling

For those who desire it, we can explore how your faith can provide a foundation for identity and worth — grounded not in performance or perfection, but in grace, purpose, and deeper meaning. Faith-based counselling can help you realign with values that matter most and embrace a more compassionate view of yourself.

Moving Forward

Your worth is not defined by your mistakes, your past, or other people’s opinions. You have value — and you have the ability to grow into the person you were created to be.

If you’re ready to take the next step in building self-esteem and exploring your identity, click “Book a Free Consult” below to get started.